Valentine's Day

Good afternoon, my jerkoffs. 

As you all know, Valentine’s Day is coming up this Saturday, and it could be a hard time for some. 

In a world full of hook-ups, month-long situationships, sneaky-links, liars, and cheaters, it can be hard to be single, and that is okay. My greatest advice is to not go out of your way to look for love (platonic or romantic tbh...). The right one(s) will find you unexpectedly- as that may be hard to hear. 

Despite the title, my topic today is not about the holiday itself, but more so, some reminders for those who may be struggling at this time. 

A lot of people say not to take this day seriously. But what they do not understand is that even though it is not that serious, it sucks not to be able to spend that special day with your loved one. Then, if you are someone who has struggled countless times in relationships, the thought of Valentine’s Day may be even more painful. 

I want to say this: do not ever question your worth. You are worthy of being loved and deserving of love. If anyone has ever made you feel such a thing, it’s apparent that they do not deserve you. Do not waste your energy on trying to make that clear to them. They will not listen, unfortunately. 

It is also okay to make mistakes. Love is not linear. Do not beat yourself up because you couldn’t see something sooner. 

Do not crowd your mind with the thought of being loved. Like I said before, it’s pointless to chase it, as...to be honest, you’ll never find what you are looking for. You’ll probably end up finding the complete opposite. 

Do not seek attention. You will not get it. 

Do not keep telling yourself that you will die alone and that no one loves you. My God. If nobody loves you, I do, but DAMN! Let’s change that mindset. 

Prioritize your friendships as they are just as important. Those are the people who will stick by you through hell and back. Don’t discard them for temporary fulfillment. 

This is so fucking annoying to hear, but love yourself! I’m not saying you can’t love anybody else before loving yourself, but honestly...okay, maybe I am saying that. Not loving yourself leads to instabilities within connections, as your insecurities will consistently get in the way. Trust me, I’ve been there! Self-sabotaging sucks! 

Be honest with yourself about what you need. Don’t say you’re ready for a relationship when you are not. Don’t say you’re okay with casual sex if you know you are not. Sometimes it’s better to be alone. It may feel good in the moment, but please, think about the future (not too much). Get your mind right. Make sure you know what you can handle, what you can’t, and especially what you will and won’t tolerate. You’ll end up hurting both yourself and others if you don’t. 

I won’t drag this on any further. However, single or not, I love you all. If you need help, ask for it. It hurts not to be loved sometimes, to not have someone by you. Hell, it hurts not being laid up! It hurts not being able to give everything you have- to express yourself fully. But learn to love yourself and those who have shown you that they appreciate you. You are deeply loved. By my sexy ass, of course! Duh! Be happy! 

I’m kidding, but it’ll be alright. Happiness is found in many forms, not just romantic connections. Remember that. Spend this Saturday taking care of yourself, doing the things you like to do, or even spending time with your friends. Again, it’s gonna be alright. You don’t know what’s coming your way next. 

xoxo, ann!